These musings come up when thinking deeply about how I feel about High Protocol as I am co-organizing a Femdom weekend retreat:
24-26 Oct 2025 in Catalonia, Spain.
https://fetlife.com/events/1870129
High protocol in a Femdom relationship should not be defined by what others expect.
It is not carved into stone by internet forums or dungeon etiquette manuals.
It is not dictated by tradition, trend, or translation.
High protocol in any FLR (Female Led Relationship) is a format in which boundaries and expected attitudes are clarified, so that following the rules to acommodate the whims and wishes of the Lady are clear and easier to follow.
It is defined by the Woman (or Women if the setting is a multi-Domme environment) in command,
who has experienced first hand which rules of service suit Her and which ones don´t.
High protocol is installed the moment both Domina and sub agree upon it and ended when Domina wants to (unless sub marks a safeword).
The rules may be changed, adjusted to Domina´s needs at any given moment.
High protocol is serving your Domme.
And if She wishes to change it with a single whisper,
you will obey without questioning.
Because She does not serve the protocol.
Protocol serves HER.
And to be clear:
My subs serve Me — not a checklist.
That is high protocol.
It is not about the form — it is about the submission.
It is about surrender to My presence, My mood, My divine inconsistency.
Some Mistresses demand formal address. I may prefer silence.
Or I may prefer you to be My entertainment, My jester, a buffoon.
If I cannot laugh, it’s not My BDSM.
Some Ladies demand full prostration. I may want you standing, hands on your back, breath held.
Or I may demand you to look into My eyes,
so I can lock into them, enjoying the pain that you endure for Me in your dedicated devotion and Goddess worship.
High protocol is there to keep you present,
It reminds you that every breath you take in My presence is by My permission.
This is not about tradition.
This is about power.
Presence and power.
The kind that doesn’t shout, but that will be present in every cell of your body during our interaction and long afterwards.
It’s grooming you into becoming a reflection of Me towards the outer world,
even when I am not there.